hi i posted this to madradhair and they directed me over here for more help. okay, so. i have a very bad history with my hair. ever since i was little i had insane curls. once i got to about 5th grade and began to take care of my hair without the help of my mother, my hair got super frizzy. it was awful. i always wore it in a ponytail and i absolutely hated it. i became known for my poofball of a head! then about one year ago i got this procedure done to take away a ton of the frizz (not chemical straightening). more after the cut (pic happy. beware):

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Hey all! I made a post a while back about my bad hair, and you guys helped me. And you told me to make a new post when I got a haircut... so I am!
I got a haircut today... I go to school in Hawaii but go home to Michigan for winter break and I got my hair cut at a place called Salon Spargo by a girl named Marni. She's their curly hair specialist. She cut it dry, and I got about 6 inches off the length and a few layers and then long, gentle side bangs. Then she washed it and styled it for me. I won't know how it REALLY looks until I take a shower and style it myself, but here are some pictures:

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For those who missed my previous post, this was my hair before:

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So yeah.. that's about it. I didn't like the cut the first 10 minutes, just because it was DIFFERENT, but I like it now. I just hope it still looks good after I've styled it myself, too!

Okay, so here's the deal. Me and my best friend have been friends since 2006.

My friend is the only one out of our little group of friends who has never had a boyfriend. She complains about it all the time, and yet, there are guys interested in her. She's been asked out several times, but she always seems to find something 'wrong' with them. They either give her a kind of creepy 'vibe' or she just finds some other reason not to go on a second date with them.

The other night was my 19th birthday party and we ended up out at the bars. She met a guy, they talked alot, and exchanged numbers at the end of the night. They've been texting each other alot over the last few days and agreed that they would go out together tonight for coffee, however, my friend told me she specified that she just wanted to go as friends. Her and this guy really seemed to hit it off at the bar, and the fact that he's calling and texting her (to me)  seem like valid reasons to think he would like her.

She also seems to just go after guys who are (no offence) but a bit out of her league. She never looks at a guy's personality or anything at first, it's always about looks with her, and then she's disappointed when they aren't interested in her, or when they turn out to be assholes.

Anyways, I guess what I'm asking here is how do I try to help this friend. I don't want to be too harsh and tell her that her personality and the way she acts with some people may be 'too over the top' and make her seem unaproachable. Or that she has no flirting ability what so ever.

Does anyone have any (nicer) things I could say/do/suggest to her when it comes to this problem?

Today is a horrible day.

One year ago today; the 22nd December; my friend's dad past away.
I know this is bad but I am staying away from him today; it may seem selfish but I will just make things worse...

I hope he's okay.x

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So I am a southern transplant to the north. So far my first winter here has been hell on my hair and skin and its only December! All the in and out of heated indoors and cold outdoors is rough. I'm making do with moisturizer and lotion for my skin but my hair is turning into an unmanageable frizzball. Any products or advice on keeping my hair behaving? My normal routine is to wash & condition hair about every other day. Products: mousse always, leave in conditioner sometimes, hairspray sometimes.

Here is an ideal hair day picture and a sad winter hair picture.

O HAY GUYS.

So.

I've posted here once or twice before. I have curly hair and I love the hell out of it. It used to drive me to tears back when I used to think it was just thick/poofy/frizzy/plain old shitty hair, but then a few years ago I realized that there were actually curls lurking underneath the rat's nest. I learned how to take care of them and got a shorter cut. This was the result:

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Tada!

Curls.

Cute.

And then this year, for reasons not entirely known to myself, I decided that I wanted to grow it long. This is the result (and the most current pix of my hair):

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I'm due for a cut soon and need more layers, etc., but that's not the point. The point is that my hair has now reached a point where it is completely unmanageable. I'm a rough sleeper. Every single morning, I wake up with matted knots in my hair the size of fists. Sometimes it's so bad that I can't even get a comb through it in the shower. WHAT DO I DO?!

I've tried keeping it in a pony-tail, but somehow that just makes it worse. The knots form where the scrunchie/hair tie/whatever meets my skull, inexplicably leaving the curliness intact. Also: Pony-tails, buns, scarves, etc. give me migraines because I have a stupidly sensitive scalp and a lot of hair. So there's that.

Do you guys have any suggestions? Specific shampoos or sprays or conditioners or some pagan God I can pray to to help manage this mess??!?

I love love love love LOVE my hair long. I'm seriously delighted with it. I would love to keep it this way, but if I don't come up with something soon, I'm going to have to cut it again. asdf;ajsf;ajf so annoying!

Halp!

My mom is dying. I don't know what to do. She has ALS, so instead of cancer or some other disease, we all have to watch her slowly die over the course of the next 5-20 years. In May, she was fine. Over the summer, she used a walker. Now, she is permanently in a wheelchair, and her voice is slow. She is tired, weak, and full of sadness. She will just get worse and worse and worse, soon she will unable to speak. i am an only child. My dad is emotional; he cries almost everyday. My mom cries all the time too. i guess I don't handle grief like that. I don't want to tell how am i feeling to them. I go to college, so I am very far away from them for at least 9 months out of the year. I guess this is a good thing, but at the same time, I guess I don't face it very well. I feel selfish and stupid, because I am distracting myself with meaningless things to keep from facing the shit that is life. I have talked to my three or four closest friends about it, but really only one of them do I feel comfortable enough to bare my soul and cry to because I feel like she is the only one that knows the best things to say. My mom said today: "It's ruining all of our lives." There's just this sadness in the house now.  i don't know what else to do. And now that I'm home for a month for break, I can't escape it. On top of everything, I was in a car accident a month ago, and I broke my shoulder, so I can't even drive to escape it or see a therapist on my own. None of my friends understand, but I don't want to burden them anyway.  Help me. I have never felt so helpless and lost and sad. She is 60 years old. She does not deserve this. Being here makes me so fatalistic and depressed. It's just so hard to be happy now when that is always lingering in the back of my mind.  please, someone help me. Advice on how to get through this? On what to do? Techniques? Methods? This almost feels like it's worse than a parent just dying, because she will be slowly withering away. Please..someone help.

Just some of my favorite records from the past year. Hope you like!


Angelspit -- Hideous and Perfect



The Big Pink -- A Brief History Of Love



Fuck Buttons -- Tarot Sport



HEALTH -- Get Color



Ouch My Face -- Ouch My Face



A Place to Bury Strangers -- Exploding Head



Porcupine Tree -- The Incident



Rammstein -- Liebe Ist Für Alle Da



Tegan & Sara -- Sainthood

Do you guys think, that in general, once you've found "the one" that you're still going to find other people intriguing to the point of having feelings for them, or have the thoughts of being with somebody else intriguing??

Hey girls!

So I have been frantically trying to find the captivating curls half gel half moose product at my local grocery store and have found that it is in the process of being discontinued! I just found the product that I love and now its gone!

With that said, does anyone use something similar to this or had to make the switch? What should I use instead? I want something with the great hold without the crunch that this stuff had. Also, I'm a college student, so something cheap I can get at Meijer is optimal.

Thanks!

Hi everyone,

I'm a social worker in New South Wales. I reckon the laws on domestic violence need changing, but I'm not sure where to begin.

I know of people who have fallen through the cracks in the law. The ones who are domestic violence survivors, but can't get their Apprehended Violence Orders changed because there were no witnesses to the violence (other than the victim and the abuser).

What can we do to help?

Thanks so much for your feedback if you do comment.

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Artist: Joxfield ProjeX
Title: Phantastique
#ca343
Date: 2009-12-17
Keywords: progressive; psychedelic; experimental; jam; space-rock; electronic; rock
(320 kbps)

"Phantastique" is a virtual LP. The intension was to make a straight, plain and simple jam record based on some repetitive patterns, at least in Joxfield ProjeX terms of what is straight, plain and simple. Not to get too much stuck into the spacey jams the tunes are separated by some short experimental pieces. Look at these moments as opportunities to get some good, fresh air.
Even though it’s maybe not heard in the music, the main inspirational sources for these recordings are some albums by Acid Mothers Temple, especially Kawabata Makoto’s mixing style, but also some funky grooves from Miles Davis ‘On The Corner’ period.

Yan: Keyboards, percussion programmer
Oax: Guitars, bass, voice- & percussion samples
Contact:
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http://www.clinicalarchives.spyw.com

I, Parasite -- The Sick Are Not Healing

For fans of most kinds of industrial.
Just got & thought i'd share (& recomened that anyone who likes, actually try & support independant artists by purchasing a copy)
http://music.iparasite.net/


& some more for y'all


Joanna Newsom -- Y's



William Shatner -- Has Been (It's really quite good, but download it for the cover of Pulp's common people at least, because it's fantastic!)



Kaki King -- Daytrotter session


The Mountain Goats & Kaki King -- Black pear tree [EP] (A colaboration between these artists from when they toured together in 2008 released on vinyl)



Porcupine Tree -- Nil recurring



Puscifer -- "C" Is for (Please Insert Sophomoric Genitalia Reference HERE)

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